Saying Insensitive Things to a Pregnant Woman
Here’s some advice – most pregnant women, if not ALL pregnant women, do not like to be told they are large any more than their non-pregnant counterparts. In fact, if you cannot imagine saying something to a non-pregnant woman, it’s probably best to not say it to pregnant woman.
Maybe I’m overly sensitive. I had a weight problem in high school. In college, I discovered better eating habits and I learned that exercise was definitely my friend. So, with controlled eating and jogging 5-7 days per week, I can keep myself in a size 8. BIG EXCEPTION – when I’m pregnant. I AM NOT A SKINNY PREGNANT WOMAN. I’m jealous of those women who are, wish I could be, but I’m learning to accept this fact about my body. I gained 50 pounds during my first pregnancy, and it took me about eight months to get back into all my clothes. I gained about 30 pounds during my second pregnancy, and it took me four months to get back into all my clothes.
I will not discuss my weight while I’m pregnant. I’m trying to enjoy this pregnancy, since it is absolutely my last. But it’s hard when some insensitive #%&wipes say things like, “Wow. Are you sure you’re not further along?” Or, “You’re huge.” Or, “You’re about ready, aren’t you?” Or, “Did you get this big in your previous pregnancies?”
My husband says, “You’re pregnant. Don’t take it personally.” My friend says, “People think you won’t take it wrong because you’re pregnant.” So here’s my question: If I were to walk up to a woman who is 50, and say, “Wow. You’re really getting wrinkles,” would that be acceptable because she’s 50? I mean, after all, you’re supposed to get wrinkles when you’re 50, right? Isn’t this the same logic?
I have a sharp tongue, but pride myself in being able to control it a little better the last few years, due to maturity and a few other factors. However, I’m really considering letting loose. Really I am. Maybe in response to the “Wow, you’re huge” comments, I should say, “Man alive, you’re ugly.”
